Work then but no work now...

[susandennis]

My morning got kind of a late start but then I had enough to do to keep me busy until after lunch.  Now nothing.  

So I'm putzing.  I blew away my most important feed folder on Bloglines so I had to rebuild that.  Fortunately, I've switched back and forth so often between Bloglines and Google that I had a good backup of my feed file.  And while I was at it, I just switched back to Google.  They both fall just short of being the perfect reader - but they fall short in different ways... sigh.

Travis has found one of his wiffle golf balls and he's in the bedroom giving it a good workout.  Betty is resting.

There's a baseball game on TV tonight and the mailman just delivered Disc 1 of Season 3 of The Wire.  There were only 5 seasons and only 4 are on DVD now.  I'm trying to pace myself but am failing miserably.

My ex husband if he is still alive - and I think he might be- will be 80 years old tomorrow.  I thought he was older than dirt when I married him 30 years ago.  When I am wrong, I am so wrong.

ooops.  The bug tracker just beeped.  Sounds like I have work at the other computer. 

Comments

[babsbuni.livejournal.com]

Wow. There's quite an age difference. How was the age difference? Were you married very long?

If I'm being too nosey, please tell me.

[susandennis]

Not too nosey at all! I got no secrets.

He was 52 and I was 30 and he had 5 kids (ages 14-27) and had been divorced 10 years. I realized what a mistake it was about 3 hours after the wedding. I figured I had made my bed so I stuck it out for 2.5 pretty miserable years. He was a nice guy but he should have known better than to marry me. I was stupid.

I am, however, grateful for the experience. I vowed at the time to never ever ever marry anyone ever again and I have been oh so happy with that vow ever since.

(and while our list of incompatibilities was pretty huge, age was not up there that high. it figured in but there were so many other, more important things - like his career vs my career - his wanting a someone to keep up his home, cook his meals and look after him, my wanting someone to keep up my home, cook my meals and look after me - his terminal neatness, my comfortable slob-ness... that were more in the way.)

[babsbuni.livejournal.com]

I see. Very interesting. 2.5 years. That's a long time to stick it out when you didn't want it right after it happened.

How were the kids with the marriage, especially the 27 year old?

[susandennis]

This was 30 years ago. Things were different. 2.5 years was shorter than a lifetime which is what I had planned on (punnishment for my being stupid).

The two oldest were girls and they pretty much saw me as the woman who stole their father from their mother (the 10 years notwithstanding). The next two were boys and they didn't care. The youngest figured he'd cash in on whatever he could get. He called me asking for money periodically long after the marriage was over - the latest was about 10 years ago. He never got any.

I never wanted kids before I got married but those 5 sealed the deal forever.

[babsbuni.livejournal.com]

I bet it sealed the deal. Ugh.