Then and now - Now is better
Sep. 4th, 2011 12:05 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
susandennisYesterday, while waiting for ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
machupicchu in the restaurant, there was a couple in there having lunch. They were gay and very old. It was so good to see them there, enjoying lunch and each other.
When I first moved to Seattle, I found that neighborhood - Capital Hill - the 'gay' neighborhood and reveled in its fun. But, times were tough. I was knitting blankets for the aids hospice and they needed more and more as they lost patients and got more every day. I was remembering friends and losing more. I was eating lunch in a restaurant there one Saturday and spied an elderly gay couple and was stricken by the realization that it was so very likely, that we would never again have elderly gay couples. They would never live long enough. It was many years before I would even go back to Capital Hill. It was just too depressing.
I know a cure for aids is still future-ville but I also know that even my friends with aids now are growing old - it's not easy for them but they are alive and contributing and alive and that's more than just something.
Yeah for really old gay people!!!
machupicchu in the restaurant, there was a couple in there having lunch. They were gay and very old. It was so good to see them there, enjoying lunch and each other. When I first moved to Seattle, I found that neighborhood - Capital Hill - the 'gay' neighborhood and reveled in its fun. But, times were tough. I was knitting blankets for the aids hospice and they needed more and more as they lost patients and got more every day. I was remembering friends and losing more. I was eating lunch in a restaurant there one Saturday and spied an elderly gay couple and was stricken by the realization that it was so very likely, that we would never again have elderly gay couples. They would never live long enough. It was many years before I would even go back to Capital Hill. It was just too depressing.
I know a cure for aids is still future-ville but I also know that even my friends with aids now are growing old - it's not easy for them but they are alive and contributing and alive and that's more than just something.
Yeah for really old gay people!!!
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Date: 2011-09-05 11:31 pm (UTC)But the memorial services etc, all that reading out of names, lighting of candles, for me it just doesn't do it anymore - I think in some paradoxical way that as the grief has moved away and softened, it has also got deeper as I age- I prefer to mourn in private now.
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