Advice needed!!

[susandennis]

Ok, gang... Here's what I just got from John The Guy Who Owes Me...

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Susan,

Both Kip and I want to resolve this in a manner that is fair to you. I'd
like to get together with you next week to discuss. There is a Starbucks
close by at Union Station. How does Monday at 3:00 sound?

John
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Needless to say, I have zero interest in meeting with him - none. Do I have to?

(If so, we're meeting at my Starbucks and at 4 on Monday.)

Or is there a response I can send that will get me the money and avoid the meeting? If they want to resolve it in a manner that is fair to me, I would have had my money for about 5 years now so that window is shut anyway.

Here's what I'd like to say:

John,

My position is not going to change by meeting face to face over coffee. You owe me money, I've offered you a generous settlement to enable you to both pay off the debt that was due more than 4 years ago and, at the same time, avoid legal action. A meeting isn't necessary.

Susan

Too much, right? Too harsh? Please don't make me meet them for coffe.

Comments

[sylphishone.livejournal.com]

I would respond that you would be glad to meet with them with your attorney provided they are willing to pay the attorney fees. If they are not, then they just need to pay you.

[susandennis]

Good one! And thanks... I think I've really decided not to go. I'm now just framing the response to ensure he picks paying up as his best option.

[photoholic62.livejournal.com]

Too much, too harsh? Not sure. You are actually nicer than me. I would have said "I have coffee. Show me the money!"

Perhaps one reason you are thinking you are being too harsh, or whatever, is because you are looking at it from the angle that you don't need the money. Pretend you are down to your last tarnished dollar, broke, about to have to live on the streets. You will feel differently about the money then, methinks. Paying off folks they have owed for less time than you is not cricket. I bet that guy threatened court faster than you did, perhaps because he *does* need the money! Ignoring all previous emails and now suddenly wanting to meet 'socially' is not cricket. He just wants you to see his sad puppy dog eyes, and have less time to think of your answers... wants to put you on the spot.

Just my opinion, and what do I know?

[susandennis]

Oh that 'I have coffee, Show me the money line' woke up the cats when I cackled out loud!!! I so want to use that!

Thank you for your insight. I think it's right on target.

Thank you!!

[sylphishone.livejournal.com]

I agree with her. They are taking advantage of you. Show no weakness or they will exploit it.

[photoholic62.livejournal.com]

You are welcome, and please apologize to the kitties for me. I did not mean to disturb their REM sleep!

i don't see why a meeting is necessary.

[henare.livejournal.com]

a meeting is useful if there is to be a negotiation. i think you have a reasonable position and have offered reasonable potential settlements. what's to negotiate?!?

i don't think the person who's in arrears for this long who seemingly has the means to settle the debt isn't in a strong position to negotiate.

[melodysk.livejournal.com]

Now you see? THIS is the problem with you living on the other side of the world..I have to wait until Saturday morning before I read what this numbnut is up to now!! :)

I agree with the whatyou have written ..however , if he gets insistant , take your lawyer along with you to the coffee house!

HE OWES YOU

(and he hasn't had the balls to answer your pleasant emails) STUFF HIM!