Another decision...
Oct. 14th, 2004 03:19 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
susandennisThe latest is that my brother has asked Mom for her car. She says that he needs to replace his truck right now and figures she'll never need the car again so can he have it?
She mentioned this to me today and said she's trying to figure out what to do about it. She said she didn't know if she wanted to keep it, ever was going to need it again, and, if not, what's a fair way to let him have it - fair to me and my sister, that is.
I said that my unsolicited opinion is that she needs to keep it for a while. She said that the reason she told me about it in the first place was to see if I had an opinion and if so, what was it. So I gave it to her.
I think she's made enough decisions and had enough churn in her life recently. And when she does not even need to make the decision now, making one to give up her only means of self transportation ever again as long as she lives is just not a good move. I advised her to wait. Wait at least a few months and see if she wants to keep it, wants to sell it, wants to give it away.
I also reminded her that when Daddy died, she gave my brother Daddy's Miata. And then she was really kind of pissed when he turned right around and sold it.
She said she was not emotionally attached to this car and I said that I thought she was pretty emotionally attached to getting around on her own or at least having the option and she did agree with that. I pointed out that if she gave the car away and decided in 6 months that she wanted her own transportation again, chances were good she wouldn't buy another car and she would be stuck.
But, mainly, right now, I think she doesn't need to be making any more life choices than are absolutely necessary to get through the day. The car is paid for. The insurance is paid for. The registration is paid for. Keeping it in the parking lot another 6 months ain't going to hurt a thing.
But, I'm not really happy with my brother for bringing this up at this time. It really wasn't a nice thing for him to do.
She mentioned this to me today and said she's trying to figure out what to do about it. She said she didn't know if she wanted to keep it, ever was going to need it again, and, if not, what's a fair way to let him have it - fair to me and my sister, that is.
I said that my unsolicited opinion is that she needs to keep it for a while. She said that the reason she told me about it in the first place was to see if I had an opinion and if so, what was it. So I gave it to her.
I think she's made enough decisions and had enough churn in her life recently. And when she does not even need to make the decision now, making one to give up her only means of self transportation ever again as long as she lives is just not a good move. I advised her to wait. Wait at least a few months and see if she wants to keep it, wants to sell it, wants to give it away.
I also reminded her that when Daddy died, she gave my brother Daddy's Miata. And then she was really kind of pissed when he turned right around and sold it.
She said she was not emotionally attached to this car and I said that I thought she was pretty emotionally attached to getting around on her own or at least having the option and she did agree with that. I pointed out that if she gave the car away and decided in 6 months that she wanted her own transportation again, chances were good she wouldn't buy another car and she would be stuck.
But, mainly, right now, I think she doesn't need to be making any more life choices than are absolutely necessary to get through the day. The car is paid for. The insurance is paid for. The registration is paid for. Keeping it in the parking lot another 6 months ain't going to hurt a thing.
But, I'm not really happy with my brother for bringing this up at this time. It really wasn't a nice thing for him to do.
