Oh the drama...
Mar. 17th, 2006 08:03 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
susandennisPolly called while Nancy was in the air and said that they didn't think Mom was going to make it through the night so she was going out to the airport and pick up Nancy and take her to the hospital. She did and the hospital people make a place for Nancy to sleep and encouraged her to stay so she did. She felt a little stranded until I reminded her that she could call Enterprise and get a car whenever she wanted. We said goodnight and she said she'd call in the morning.
At 4 a.m. my phone rings and it's Polly who is having a little meltdown. She can't get the hospital to give her information and Nancy said something to her and I honestly got lost. But I called the hospital and got a snippy staff person who agreed to tell Polly whatever she wanted to know. I kind of went back to sleep but not very. (Polly sent a very apologetic email after and I called her at 6 and told her not to worry that we were all allowed to melt down and it was cool and I would make sure that she was kept in the loop totally and always. Later I specifically made Nancy pledge to make Polly feel like a blood sister and she swore she would.)
Apparently the latest is that both of my brother's two grown sons - one with wife - are planning on going to Charleston and maybe my brother and his wife. If I had the tiniest qualm about my not going, it's gone now. More now than ever before I feel 3/3,000/thankyoujesus!! I feel sorry for Nancy but she's cool about it and will handle it fine and much better than I would.
Mom is now off of all tubes and all medicine except for something to help her breathe and morphine. Apparently they came in this morning at 5 to draw blood - they woke Mom and Nancy up to do it. ??!!! When the doctor came in Nancy got him to write orders for no more tests. Mom's favorite sitter is there with Nancy and they are talking to her and holding her hand and keeping her company. There is no evidence that Mom knows they are there but Nancy says that the doctors told her that she might still be able to hear them so they are filling her ears with love.
Nancy and I had a good long talk about stuff - what we do after - the arrangements, cremation, etc. And moving her stuff out of 'the home'. We have to get everything out of her apartment within 15 days, I think. I'm not sure when the clock starts - at her death or at the day she entered the hospital but either way it's going to be a scramble. I had already decided that if we got into a pinch, we would just hire someone to come get everything and move it to a storage space and deal with it when we had time to deal with it. I think we are not going to have any 'dividing of the goods' battles at all which is a relief.
It always bothered Mother and Daddy both that the three of us kids were not close. They would be delighted and proud of this spirit of cooperation that has bubbled up to meet the occasion.
At 4 a.m. my phone rings and it's Polly who is having a little meltdown. She can't get the hospital to give her information and Nancy said something to her and I honestly got lost. But I called the hospital and got a snippy staff person who agreed to tell Polly whatever she wanted to know. I kind of went back to sleep but not very. (Polly sent a very apologetic email after and I called her at 6 and told her not to worry that we were all allowed to melt down and it was cool and I would make sure that she was kept in the loop totally and always. Later I specifically made Nancy pledge to make Polly feel like a blood sister and she swore she would.)
Apparently the latest is that both of my brother's two grown sons - one with wife - are planning on going to Charleston and maybe my brother and his wife. If I had the tiniest qualm about my not going, it's gone now. More now than ever before I feel 3/3,000/thankyoujesus!! I feel sorry for Nancy but she's cool about it and will handle it fine and much better than I would.
Mom is now off of all tubes and all medicine except for something to help her breathe and morphine. Apparently they came in this morning at 5 to draw blood - they woke Mom and Nancy up to do it. ??!!! When the doctor came in Nancy got him to write orders for no more tests. Mom's favorite sitter is there with Nancy and they are talking to her and holding her hand and keeping her company. There is no evidence that Mom knows they are there but Nancy says that the doctors told her that she might still be able to hear them so they are filling her ears with love.
Nancy and I had a good long talk about stuff - what we do after - the arrangements, cremation, etc. And moving her stuff out of 'the home'. We have to get everything out of her apartment within 15 days, I think. I'm not sure when the clock starts - at her death or at the day she entered the hospital but either way it's going to be a scramble. I had already decided that if we got into a pinch, we would just hire someone to come get everything and move it to a storage space and deal with it when we had time to deal with it. I think we are not going to have any 'dividing of the goods' battles at all which is a relief.
It always bothered Mother and Daddy both that the three of us kids were not close. They would be delighted and proud of this spirit of cooperation that has bubbled up to meet the occasion.
