No toaster ovens here... Move along, please

[susandennis]

As I was going to sleep last night I remembered something from the party... One of the first couples to get there after I did were two women - Melanie and Michelle. They were fun but shortly after I met them they were joking about their being lesbians and in a joking manner pointed out to everyone in the room that I wasn't.

Now... How did they know that??? I wasn't really offended - mainly because it really was in good fun but, really... I Am I not good enough? I feel like there was a test and I flunked it and now they won't let me into their group.

Stephen and I were rehashing the party this morning and he says he's very used to it. He says whenever Keiran introduces him to his friends as his brother, 'all the gay guys give a sigh of disappointment because they know the odds of both brothers being gay are slim.'

Comments

[mickeytor.livejournal.com]

see ... with your love of baseball and cold weather -- my gaydar has been in hyper-drive over you -- and I know better!

These girls must really know what they're talking about in that area -- or there is something about your persona that you give off in person that you don't show here in LJ!

:)

[susandennis]

Ok, now you have really confused me...

You can't be saying I'm not good enough, can you?

Lesbians like cold weather? So except for the being sexually attracted to women part, I could be a lesbian?

[mickeytor.livejournal.com]

Oh dear. Let me backpeddle a bit ...

1. Never was there a question of you being good enough. That doesn't factor in at all. You either are - or you aren't.

2. I'm not sure what the membership rules are for being a lesbian these days are. It seems to change daily. But if you are looking to be - I think I could get you a discount on the yearly membership!

;)

[susandennis]

A discount??!!! Cool! I'm going to ask my friend Lee and Sherry about this. They have turned me down in the past because they already have a toaster oven, but maybe there are new guidelines. Thanks for the tip!

I love it when you backpeddle.

[joyoflj.livejournal.com]

From what I have been reading about holiday parties of late, I say no more parties. People don't seem to follow party etiquette for mingling conversation anymore.

I myself would never point out or comment upon anyone's sexual orientation at a party.

But that is me.

[susandennis]

I think parties in your part of the world, these days, are very different than parties here.

And, this one wasn't a holiday party (thankgod) - no holiday decorations and no holiday music. It was lovely.

Really, sexual orientation comments wer a perfectly acceptable converstion there. You would have been ok with it. Really.

[rsc.livejournal.com]

I myself would never point out or comment upon anyone's sexual orientation at a party.


Nor would I.

[letmesaythis.livejournal.com]

Maybe they were just looking for confirmation or denial at that point. Instead of asking directly, which might have seemed rude, they threw out the idea that you are straight to see how you would respond. It could be that someone in the group had designs on you and wanted to find out if you like women that way before approaching you. At the very least it's great that they felt comfortable enough to even joke about the whole thing in your company. It just goes to show how accepting you are.

[susandennis]

You know, I think you might have nailed it. Not the part about someone having designs on me - but the part about confirmation or denial. Most everyone there was openly gay... I always find it a bit difficult to be openly straight in those situtations. Maybe I need to dig out that old Straight but Not Narrow t-shirt!

And the whole thing was a huge riotus joke. "some of my best friends are straight, etc." it was very inclusive and friendly fun.

[katbyte.livejournal.com]

No toaster oven, damn!!

I would have grabbed her arm, pulled her aside and said, well, I am a lesbian, but not out of the closet yet due to a multimillion dollar inheritance I am waiting for, which being lesbian nullifies.

[treebreeze.livejournal.com]

If it's any consolation, I'll always think of you as a lesbian!

[susandennis]

Aw... shucks. Thanks!!!

Now, on another topic, please go check your hotmail account.