I am an email snob

[susandennis]

I really am. 10 years ago when a woman used her husband's email address it was sad. Today it is just stupid. Twice in the past week, I have gotten emails from such women and I'm kind of surprised how much it pisses me off.

The first one was from someone I really do know. She sent me an email (from her own email address, however) asking me questions I had answered in email the week before. She is not the sharpest knife in the drawer so I tried to be kind (a real stretch for me). "You might have a problem with your email since I sent you two notes last week answering those very questions." She responded, "Oh, well, I've been letting Craig check my email lately because I've just been too busy looking for a new job."

Where to start with the list of problems that conjures??????

The second is from a woman I do not know. The email address she uses indicates that it belongs to a man with the first name of David who lives in the UK. She signs her email Margaret. She sends me pictures for jigsaw puzzles. The pictures are not very good but that does not stop her from inundating me. When she first started sending me emails, I made a joke about calling her 'david'. She very patiently explained that David was her husband and the email was his 'because I don't know about computers at all'. Then why in the FUCK are you bothering me with your stupid giant sized ill conceived and poorly executed pictures????!!!!

My sister does it but I have so many issues with her that using her husband's email address just gets lost in the mix.

In 2005, there is no reason in the world why anyone and everyone cannot have their own email address.

Comments

[ms-hackman.livejournal.com]

Agreed. It is rediculous. And frankly, I don't open any emails like that anymore. I don't open any emails that aren't obviously from someone I know or a client I am expecting to get a message from, and then I only open it if it is from so&so@thiscompany.com. Even if it from someone I know - no subject = no opening, and subject with spam words = well, obviously it goes straigt to my delete box.

Even my 7 year old has his own email address now.

[artisanal_xara]

I feel your pain.

My mother, who is fairly technically savvy, has a business email address, but not an address for home. She's only working part time now, so I can't just send all her mail to work, and my dad gets annoyed when I send her stuff at his address. The result is that I have to come up with a reason to address all my emails to both of them in order to keep the peace and still get my messages to mom.

I can't understand why she doesn't go get herself a free email account somewhere. She's a computer programmer for goodness sakes! She ought to be able to figure out how to use yahoo or gmail or something.

[susandennis]

That would truly make me nuts. At least my sister and I don't speak so I am confronted by her email lameness very rarely.

[susandennis]

Plus, how do you efficiently look for a job without email? Her last two jobs were trainers at internet startups.

[pinkfish.livejournal.com]

I figured this is part of what bothers susandennis about this; time was that a woman would certainly let her husband go through her mail for her - after all, he knows what's best for her, right? As far as I'm concerned, those days can't be gone soon enough, and it is maddening to find out that some people still choose to live that way.

[susandennis]

Oh yeah... Tons of them. I don't know about the rest of the country but the southeast is full of Mrs. Hisfirstname Hislastname's! And a lot of the women in Mom's 'home' believe that being addressed by any other name is disrespectful. Even though the he of Hisfirstname has been dead for 30 years.

And, yes, you got right to it. I grew up in a time when women who were NOT identified by their fathers first and then their husbands were few and far between. It makes me even crazier when it's women who perpetuate that slave-like relationship. Crazy, I tell you!!

Of course, anyone who ever called me MRS. Anything got the evil stare if I was feeling charitable or the crushed kneecap if I wasn't.

[katbyte.livejournal.com]

10 years ago when a woman used her husband's email address it was sad. Today it is just stupid. Twice in the past week, I have gotten emails from such women and I'm kind of surprised how much it pisses me off.

Whew, glad I have my own email.

I not only have my own, but hubby doesn't have one, and never uses the computer, so no need for one. Most ISPs now-a-days give you more than one anyway, so really no excuse not to have one. I actually have three I think, but only use one usually.

[judith.livejournal.com]

I am SO in the same camp. It really irritates me when couples use the same email. I feel frustrated writing to one of a couple. There isn't any reason not to have separate emails. I ask people if they get all their mail addressed to both of them and they say no, but they don't see the connection. It is really annoying if you want to send a birthday card, for example. I feel held-back, like I can't be completely me when I write to one and my mail may be read by the other.

[pheon.livejournal.com]

Julie and I actually have a little of both. Our original email address was for both of us, since didn't want to pay the additional monthly fee for a separate one. And I have procmail set up on that account so that email for one of us goes to that one. Mail that is for both of us goes to both. [The criteria is basically who it's from.]

Now we have separate email addresses elsewhere, though Julie rarely uses hers. I am slowly getting my mailing list stuff moved over to my single email address, which I can easily reach while traveling.