The Mom Report
Jun. 8th, 2005 07:16 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
susandennisMom is about the same as yesterday. Today she seems a bit stressed about my sister-in-law. "Is she waiting for me to beg her to come?" "Well, no Mom. She's happy to come if you ask but if you don't, I think she will stay where she is." "Well, I'll talk to Polly about it."
I do not know whether or not she wants her to come or doesn't want her to come and I spent a good 45 seconds to a minute and a half thinking about it and decided to just butt out. Mom/Polly/Theresa/the sitters/my brother and my sister-in-law are all adults. They can handle it. They don't need me.
Mom also seemed frustrated about not knowing stuff. She thought she was supposed to get her hair washed today and didn't know for sure. Theresa hadn't been in yet and she hadn't seen Polly today and she sounded kind of pissed about it all. Honestly, pissed sounded kind of good. Better than confused. At least she doesn't think they are ganging up on her or doing stuff behind her back. I actually think being worried about her hair is kind of a productive thing to worry about.
What I have learned - control freak that I am - is that if I want to micro manage her situation, I need to move to Charleston. When donkeys fly. When chickens get lips. So. I need to handle the stuff that is critical and leave the rest. Mom is in a state now where I am confident that she will invoke me if she needs me and can manage the others around her well enough.
I do not know whether or not she wants her to come or doesn't want her to come and I spent a good 45 seconds to a minute and a half thinking about it and decided to just butt out. Mom/Polly/Theresa/the sitters/my brother and my sister-in-law are all adults. They can handle it. They don't need me.
Mom also seemed frustrated about not knowing stuff. She thought she was supposed to get her hair washed today and didn't know for sure. Theresa hadn't been in yet and she hadn't seen Polly today and she sounded kind of pissed about it all. Honestly, pissed sounded kind of good. Better than confused. At least she doesn't think they are ganging up on her or doing stuff behind her back. I actually think being worried about her hair is kind of a productive thing to worry about.
What I have learned - control freak that I am - is that if I want to micro manage her situation, I need to move to Charleston. When donkeys fly. When chickens get lips. So. I need to handle the stuff that is critical and leave the rest. Mom is in a state now where I am confident that she will invoke me if she needs me and can manage the others around her well enough.
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Date: 2005-06-08 02:55 pm (UTC)Always!
Date: 2005-06-08 03:05 pm (UTC)