The bits and the bytes

[susandennis]

I got a head-hunting-ish email last night for a job that does actually sound right up my alley - except for two thing... 1) it would have me working in Bellevue (doing that already, thank) and 2) the very last item under requirements "Diplomacy and grace under pressure". I couldn't get to grace even with medication. Count me the fuck out. Thanks.

Joy of joy... Turns out the Twins suck worse than the Mariners!! I love these guys. We were down by 4 and then kind of legitimately tied up the game for a few innings until finally in the 8th, I guess we wore 'em down and they walked our winning run in for us. I hope slinkr and Kelly had fun at the game.

I got an invitation to a birthday party last night. Rick will be 50 in November and his husband, Jack, is throwing him a giant birthday bash at their home in San Jose. Rick and I went to work at the IBM plant in Charlotte on the same day in 1982. He and Jack had been together then for about 6 months. They were here for a really fun visit in 2001. Jack memorialized it nicely.

I sent Jack a note last night to kind of catch up and I got a reply this morning. Jack has always been my other word for drama. This was in his note this morning "My father contracted leukemia last summer (not a trauma as we weren't that close), but his 4th wife showed up at his death bed trying to become his 6th wife at the last minute."

Mom is going through a bit of a whiney phase. A little passive aggressive whining about everything from the woman who does her nails to the seating in the dining room. My many years of psychology study (Ok, the one course that I barely squeaked out of) leads me to think that it's kind of an unconscious reaction to her most nearby child moving to way past nearby. He and his wife were very good about making the 4 hour drive from Jacksonville, FL to Charleston, SC a lot and particularly whenever Mom needed them. On Friday they are moving to Austin, Texas and I think Mom is a bit lonely and a bit bored.

She and Daddy studied long and hard before picking Charleston as their retirement destination. At the time, I lived in California and my sister lived in a remote part of Washington state and my brother lived in... heck he might have still been in the Navy and on a boat. I can't remember. Anyway, they were told by their friends that they would regret not moving somewhere near their children or at least their grandchildren (my brother's kids lived in Boston with his first wife and my sister's kids live in remote Washington). Oh, no, they said. We have always lived our lives for ourselves and not the kids and we are not going to start that now...

Mom would never in a million years move from where she is now. And she's always been a staunch 'I've made my bed and now I will lie in it regardless' person so passive aggressive whining is about all that's left for her. "I can't get anyone's attention to answer a simple question. But, no, I don't need you to call someone, yet." or "Polly hasn't been around for days so I haven't been able to find out..." (I'm pretty sure Polly was there yesterday morning because I have an email where Mom was complaining that Polly always comes "while I'm trying to get ready to go somewhere.") She'll get over it and I need to make sure it does not grind me down. I also need to remember that she really does not have anyone to complain to except me. I'm lucky enough to have the whole LJ world and beyond as audience for my whining!

Now I need to get to work I have approximately 300+web pages with heavy graphics that have to be cut and pasted into Word doc tables for PDFing - don't even ask. It's continued employment.

Comments

[rsc.livejournal.com]

she really does not have anyone to complain to except me. I'm lucky enough to have the whole LJ world

Plus you have the 3000m/3tz/tyj going for you.

[susandennis]

ohyeahbaby!

[pinkrose70.livejournal.com]

Did the head-hunterish place say that you had to use SINCERE diplomacy and grace? Maybe with the right monetary compensation, good hours and other goodies, you could skid by pretending. Well, maybe not worth the effort the more I think about it.

Thank you for the great update on your Mom. Loved the part about Polly not being around much, but yesterday complaining that she always comes when she's trying to go out somewhere.

What's happened to the dining room seating? I know important that seating thing is. My little neighbor left for her once a week Bridge at the Sr. Center. I think it starts at 12 Noon. Dressed and be-decked in jewels and
toting her "brown bag" lunch, because the 50 cents one that is optional gives her too much food. She was rushing around and in a tizzy...and it was 10:15. (and for those of Susan's readers who remember..this neighbor is 94 and still drives)

I told her to slow down, she had almost 2 hours to get there. Oh, no...it's all about the parking and the seating.

I'm not sure if I mentioned this to you previously, but if not this book sounds like something fun to read:

http://www.strandbooks.com/profile/?isbn=0743242173

I heard the author being interviewed on a talk show. Rothman is a former writer for Letterman, and after his contract ended..he moved to a retirement villa in Florida and wrote a book about it.

Susan, I want to thank you for your review of Lincoln Child's "Death Match." Enjoyed it.

Sorry if I've already told you about the book and for the length of this comment.

Keep thinking those 3 thousand miles!

[letmesaythis.livejournal.com]

Hmmmm. I wonder if your mom would like to join LJ?

[susandennis]

byte your tongue (or rather smyte your keyboard??) - EARregardless, zip it!