Lost and Found
Oct. 1st, 2005 09:44 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
susandennisI found my friend, John this morning after a week of fretting that I had lost him.
John and I first met in Minnesota in the 80s when where we worked for competing executives. We have a long and fun history and kind of usual one. If you look up the word metrosexual, you'll see John's picture. He's tall and good looking and has a nice deep voice and a razor sharp wit and a sense of humor that is so dry that it kicks up dust. He is always impeccably put together. In all these years, I've seen him in jeans only one time. Never in khakis. We worked together, we've traveled together - for work and for pleasure (he was my traveling buddy on both trips to New Zealand). We spent every single Christmas together from 1992 until 1999. In 1999 he moved to Japan and then to Australia. Last year he retired and moved to Southern California.
We have never slept together. We're chums, not fuck buddies. We've actually never even discussed it.
We haven't seen each other much in recent years but he calls every month or so for a nice long chat and we swap emails. Last month, he sent me an email and, in explanation for why he's not up here checking out the redesign project, he explained that he has had a couple of collapses - he just falls down. Doesn't lose consciousness, just falls in a heap. And they don't know why. He said he as having an MRI a week ago last Wednesday.
So... last Friday when he didn't check in, I sent an email asking for an update. I heard nothing. Last night I decided that I had had enough of not hearing and came to the stark realization that I had no clue - outside of email how to find him! I have his old IBM address and phone number and his address from when he lived in San Jose and a phone number that is a San Jose area code and no clue where in Southern California he lives (all those places down there just morph into a blob in my mind).
I did have an old email address for his brother who I don't like and hate to have to contact but I did - sent him a email. I also knew if push came to shove, I could call his brother but I really really really don't want any contact with him.
This morning, I wondered if the old phone number, by some slim chance, had forwarding info, so I called it. I got John's voice mail!! And I left a message. Minutes later I got a 'missed' call from an area code in Southern California. I called it and got John's voice again and left another message. And then I sent another email explaining why I was all of a sudden stalking him.
I got an email reply back saying he was out the way out the door and would call later but he still had no medical answers and was kind of bummed about it but waiting. And he confirmed his phone numbers and gave me his address.
Whew. I feel better knowing his not lost.
John and I first met in Minnesota in the 80s when where we worked for competing executives. We have a long and fun history and kind of usual one. If you look up the word metrosexual, you'll see John's picture. He's tall and good looking and has a nice deep voice and a razor sharp wit and a sense of humor that is so dry that it kicks up dust. He is always impeccably put together. In all these years, I've seen him in jeans only one time. Never in khakis. We worked together, we've traveled together - for work and for pleasure (he was my traveling buddy on both trips to New Zealand). We spent every single Christmas together from 1992 until 1999. In 1999 he moved to Japan and then to Australia. Last year he retired and moved to Southern California.
We have never slept together. We're chums, not fuck buddies. We've actually never even discussed it.
We haven't seen each other much in recent years but he calls every month or so for a nice long chat and we swap emails. Last month, he sent me an email and, in explanation for why he's not up here checking out the redesign project, he explained that he has had a couple of collapses - he just falls down. Doesn't lose consciousness, just falls in a heap. And they don't know why. He said he as having an MRI a week ago last Wednesday.
So... last Friday when he didn't check in, I sent an email asking for an update. I heard nothing. Last night I decided that I had had enough of not hearing and came to the stark realization that I had no clue - outside of email how to find him! I have his old IBM address and phone number and his address from when he lived in San Jose and a phone number that is a San Jose area code and no clue where in Southern California he lives (all those places down there just morph into a blob in my mind).
I did have an old email address for his brother who I don't like and hate to have to contact but I did - sent him a email. I also knew if push came to shove, I could call his brother but I really really really don't want any contact with him.
This morning, I wondered if the old phone number, by some slim chance, had forwarding info, so I called it. I got John's voice mail!! And I left a message. Minutes later I got a 'missed' call from an area code in Southern California. I called it and got John's voice again and left another message. And then I sent another email explaining why I was all of a sudden stalking him.
I got an email reply back saying he was out the way out the door and would call later but he still had no medical answers and was kind of bummed about it but waiting. And he confirmed his phone numbers and gave me his address.
Whew. I feel better knowing his not lost.
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Date: 2005-10-01 06:20 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-10-01 06:44 pm (UTC)I do too
Date: 2005-10-01 06:56 pm (UTC);)
Re: I do too
Date: 2005-10-01 07:09 pm (UTC)See? boring. But, exacerbated by the fact that thoughtless brother and his annoying wife live here in Seattle.
Re: I do too
Date: 2005-10-01 09:23 pm (UTC)but a Dr. being an asshole is not that rare...
I just wasnt sure if it carried over to family memebers or not.
you will have to give me a NAME at our next appt!
Im sorry your friend is having a hard time and if I can do anything as far as recommending someone locally let me know.
I know a lot of good Docs.