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celluloid_jam comes through again. Romantic relationships. Ok. Let's get to it.My first date ever was with Ted who lived 3 doors down from us. It was to the 5th grade (so 1960) and he asked me to the Patrol Boys' Skate Party. (Patrol boys were a team of kids (of the boy persuasion only) who served as crossing guards before and after school. We they helped the adult (paid) crossing guards. Since we all walked to school, crossing streets was a thing and guards were a big deal.
The party was at an indoor skating rink. We wore shoe skates which were a lot better than the far more popular key skates.
These are exactly like the shoe skates we wore at the indoor rink.
These are just like the skates we owned and wore every day outside. You put your shoe in and then twisted that key so that those clamps kept your shoe secure (yeah, right), then you fastened the strap around your ankle/top of foot. They actually did kind of stay on and work. But, if you lost the key, which, of course everyone did two minutes after getting your hands on it, you could never adjust them correctly.
Whoa, tangent. Sorry.
The next year, Carver asked me to the 6th grade Patrol Boys party. Carver's father founded Krispy Kreme BUT that was before Kripsy Kreme was a BFD. Back then it was just a company that supplied donuts to the grocery store. But, Carver was a catch for me because of his big sister, Patsy, who had been my counselor at camp and I thought she was amazing. She was a teenager and so everything I wanted to be. Anything I could do to spend time with her was totally worth it. And Carver said she would be driving us to the party.
I have no memory of boys between then and when I hit 15. My Mom said I couldn't date until I was 16 BUT then Eddie wanted me to go with the movies with him, in his car (or, rather, his father's) so, actually, a date. Turns out he got around the 16 rule because our mom's were friends. I didn't mind him too much but going in a car with a boy to a movie? Heck yeah! Also he was an older man - 2 years.
It was very Happy Days/Father Knows Best/My Three Sons/Ozzie and Harriet. I wore my best school dress and penny loafers and he wore a blue crew neck sweater with khakis and penny loafers.
We did not look like this because we were not going to a football game so no flag or blanket. Duh.
Eddie and I dated until he went off to college. And then, there was another guy who's name I cannot even remember. I do remember he wanted to come over one night when Mom and Dad weren't home which was totally against the rules NO EXCEPTIONS. So I said ok and we got caught kissing in the basement playroom and I got in so much trouble. So much trouble. I think I pretty much swore off all boys. Not worth the grief.
And then I went to college. I spent the first year wallowing in my autonomy. I had tons of friends male and female and no time for one special one. We played in groups. Between the minimal school work I managed to work in, I divided my time between playing bridge (for cash) and peace marches.
Plus, I had a personal issue. I was a virgin. Also I figured out that I was the only one left on the planet. I was embarrassed by it. It was like a cross to bear. Finally, there I was facing a threat of turning 21 years old without ever having sex even once. We got the month of January off and I got a job, for the month, at the newspaper at Wheeling, WVA. My agenda was to get two college credits and lose my virginity.
To Be Continued...
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Date: 2018-07-26 12:08 am (UTC)Ack. I should go on a deletion frenzy.
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Date: 2018-07-26 01:11 am (UTC)Loved roller skating, but only with the shoe kind at a rink - not the skate key kind. They NEVER stayed on - always had to be tightened, so I lost interest.
Weejuns! Loved them! Put dimes, not pennies, in them - so I could make a phone call!
I was a virgin when I married! I don't remember the goal to "take care of that"! But, I realized I was in the minority.
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Date: 2018-07-26 01:18 am (UTC)We put pennies in our penny loafers. The dime (yes, for the phone) went into the actual shoe. Not comfy but I putting dimes where the pennies were was frown upon and I don't remember why. Oh wait I do remember why our dimes were inside the shoe... easier to get to in a hurry!
Wild about being a virgin when you got married.
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Date: 2018-07-26 02:29 am (UTC)I remember my school getting one crossing guard, a parent volunteer, and she was always only at one crosswalk in front of the elementary school. I always thought it was strange because there were actually four crosswalks and she was at the one with the least amount of kids using it. As I got older they had more people on guard duty, almost always moms.
I can't wait to hear more of this,
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Date: 2018-07-26 04:28 am (UTC)I know a few parts of it, from that last lovely long series you did of your life story, and that is just enough to whet my appetite for this on. I’m settling in to read along!
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Date: 2018-07-28 05:15 pm (UTC)Boys only began to figure in my life in the 1970s, and I felt like you about my virginity - but got a good bit over 21 with it!!
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