Cha cha cha changes

[susandennis]

I'm making changes to the way I enjoy Live Journal. This means moving people off my friends list or onto lists that I don't read often.

I love the flexibility that allow everyone to make Live Journal what they want it to be for them. I enjoy reading about people's daily lives and their routine goings on. But lately I've found that about half of my friends feed is stuff I just scroll by and ignore.

I'm not a fan of fan fiction or memes or reading answers to stock questions that even the answerers don't really enjoy. I totally get why people build their journals around those things and love reading them by other people, I'm just not one of those people.

Because my journal is public, my removing people from my friends list will have no impact on anyone else's friends list. I also get that many people believe that Live Journal is a two way street or no street at all. So my actions will cause reactions of being removed from access to the locked journals of others. Thanks for letting me in for a while.

Comments

[gracegiver]

That is a very polite and authentic way of doing it. Good on you. I recall so much drama in the past when LJers removed friends, glad it's in the past.

[susandennis]

Thank you so much for this. I hit 'send' with a bit of trepidation. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Your comment came in 5 minutes later and made me feel so much better about the how of doing it. Thank you!

[idahoswede.livejournal.com]

It is your journal to do with what you will. Sometimes you make great connections and other times, it just doesn't happen.

[susandennis]

Well, except in this case, it's really not about my journal. It's about the journals of others and I love finding new friends and new journals, you are right... not all fit my bill. :)

[ozswede.livejournal.com]

That sounds like a sensible plan. I try as much as possible to keep my friend list short as I don't want to spend hours and hours online.

[susandennis]

Thanks. I have no problem spending hours and hours online :) ... I just want them to be good hours.

[jocosa]

My posting once a year has saved me from the ax once again.

I remember way back in the day, the drama of unfriending someone. Now a days it's so quiet around here that most my original friends have faded into the mist. Your post explained things so well and kindly, I truly doubt anyone will be upset at being removed.

[susandennis]

hahaha no ax for you - i'd miss my annual glimpse at your wonderful colorful fish user pic.

And, thank you. I don't want anyone to be hurt.

[mdlbear]

One of the things I love about Dreamwidth is that you can have separate filters for access and reading, so I can give access to people I like without reading boring journals (although as it turns out I don't filter my reading, because most people have a mix of stuff only some of which is boring).

On LJ, I only drop people who are crossposting from Dreamwidth and have disabled comments on LJ. That turns out to be most of my friends list at this point.

[susandennis]

Yes, I was actually disappointed when you removed comments from Live Journal. I started to comment several times but was too lazy to fire up dream width. I have tried dream width several times in the path and just never got into it. Different Strokes...

[mdlbear]

I should maybe re-enable them? I don't know how many people that would affect, but even for only a few it might be worthwhile.

[susandennis]

i dunno... depends on how much you want the possible odd comment...

[ghost-light.livejournal.com]

Thank you

[kishenehn.livejournal.com]

That's a logical philosophy ... way better than the passive-aggressive drama that typically used to accompany friends-list pronouncements in the old days of LJ. (Though I'm afraid I know a couple of people here who still practice that.)

My approach has always been that unless someone proves to be truly appalling, I'll friend those who want to be friends with me. I've always ended up needing to quietly scroll past a few peoples' posts because of that, but by now I've outlasted nearly all of the problematic people. :)

[dadi.livejournal.com]

Well I sure hope we'll remain buddies here. I certainly enjoy your writing and pictures. But no bad feelings if you decide to not want to read me any more, if I can still read you :)

[rosegardenfae.livejournal.com]

Good idea, and politely executed, you're a good egg. :-) I have a very small friends list, but it could use some cleaning up.

[timbear.livejournal.com]

I absolutely understand.

On a "totally unrelated" matter, I would like to point out that with the imminent demise of Google+ I am strongly considering regularly posting on LJ again soon.

There's no way I'm going to even consider facebook, I can't get on with MeWe, and more to the point I pay for Livejournal and don't actually use it.

[susandennis]

I totally get that.

I looked at the other options and could not find one that worked for me at all.

BUT speaking selfishly, I'd LOVE for you to come back to LJ! I miss your notes and your photos.