My sister is going

[susandennis]

I wrote in my evening update email to my siblings about my going/not going dilemma and ask them what they thought. I got a gracious and thoughtful note from my sister saying she strongly felt that one of us should go and now. And she was willing to go alone, with me or with all four of us. And she was willing not to go if I wanted to go alone or if my brother did.

So I called my brother. At his old job in Florida. Note to self: update numbers in cellphone. Note to Brother: your old buddy, Billy is working nights now and says 'hi'. Then I did manage to dig out his current number...

I told him what her note said and said that I was inclined to encourage her to go and did he mind and he said no and we agreed that she is the hospital person in the family.

I called her (note to her child: do not scream into the phone when calling your mother to tell her it's for her)... She was a bit surprised. And why not... we have not spoken on the phone or in person in... well, probably since Daddy died in 1999. But, she rallied and I told her what I told my brother. And told her that I really did not want to go. That I don't want to see Mom in ICU. And to that she responded with a whole lot of caring and kindness and understanding and said that we are lucky to each have different strengths and talents to offer up and she was very glad to step in 'and be all of us'.

She was so gracious and so kind that she made me cry. The bitch.

Comments

[jawnbc]

Well. There you go!

[jawnbc]

Or there she go.

[dizzdvl.livejournal.com]

I'm glad your sister is finally turning around from being a royal turd.

I'm really thinking about you and your mom.

*hugs*

[kyrielle]

I am glad that she stepped up here and wants to go, and that you have such a good answer to the question of going/not-going. And that she is being nice about it.

[seattlejo.livejournal.com]

I'm glad she stepped up for you. I dont blame you for not wanting to go and it is good that she appears to have a decent side and some sense after all.

And in the not go scenario, I dont want to trivialize it at all, but I do know how you feel. In 1999 when my Mother passed, I did not go. I did not return to Chicago . I stayed and did what was right for me. It's not an easy decision at all.

[pookfreak.livejournal.com]

*hug* I'm so sorry about how things are going but I'm really quite happy to see how gracious and sympathetic your sister is being and how she's recognized all the strengths you each have.

[katbyte.livejournal.com]

You take care of things for your mom every day. You have been her support for a long time. Even if it was from a distance, you have still always been there for her. No guilt here, glad you see that.

This just brings back so many memories, my sister and I are from different planets, but still share a lot of history.

It helps to have support. Glad she rallied for this.

[lilactime.livejournal.com]

Hugs to you, Susan. None of this can be easy and you're a real trooper. All of your family is lucky to have you.

[nanne.livejournal.com]

Strength & courage!

I am glad all these sibling issues get resolved with such a minimum of drama. Who knows where you might find yourself with them in a few years?

[canuckgirl.livejournal.com]

Heh, that's wonderful. She is very wise. :)