Oh Biggie...

[susandennis]

Biggie just came into the living room with white dust looking sprinkles all over his back. I'm so afraid to go investigate. I thought I heard something a bit ago but then figured it was my imagination. Guess not. Biggie. Biggie. Biggie.

It's always something with Biggie.

The outside is white with fog. I cannot see the stadium from here.



I have a rather robust todo list today.

See Biggie's food tree there? Well, what you can't see but I can (and it's driving me nuts) is that the fabric around the base is all stained. I had to change flavors of Biggie's food a couple of months ago and the new flavor, apparently, is greasy. It's ugly and it bugs me. The tree is screwed onto the base and the screws are covered with glued on caps so swapping out the fabric for clean is not an easy option. I think, instead, I'm going to cut the fabric off and paint.

That will probably not work like I expect but it won't be worse than stained fabric.

Then there is the yarn audit.

Then there is the whiteboard's magnets that need to be glued onto its back.

Then there is one more thing that right now I cannot remember.

Oh and clean up whatever mess Biggie made. Lots to do.

In the past week three people have 'unfriended' me here on LJ. I totally get it. I'd probably unfriend me, and I've done the same to others whose journals no longer interest me. However, since my journal is not locked, my unfriending them does not cut them off from me. All three had locked journals that I actually enjoyed reading and now cannot. Plus while intellectually I get it, emotionally it still feels like REJECTED!!! Which is also ok but a bummer.

Guess I'd better get my ass in gear before I run out of steam.

Comments

[mairi-dubh.livejournal.com]

I'm...confused. (That seems to be happening to me quite a lot, lately. )

If the journal/s you've "unfriended" still list you as a friend shouldn't you be able to read those even if you've unfriended them? Maybe I'm totally, completely dead-stupid about this, but somehow I'd got the idea that a given journal would be visible to anyone that journal owner listed as a friend...? ---even if those are "Friend-locked," I mean...?

[susandennis]

yes, of course. BUT when someone unfriend's me and has a locked journal, I can no longer read their journals. So now I can no longer read the three journals of people who unfriended me.

[mairi-dubh.livejournal.com]

Ohhh...now I get it.

Sorry: my brain scrambled what you had written and I thought that you had unfriended these people but that nothing else had changed. In my scrambled version, you should have still been able to read their journals.

I totally get what you mean, though, about it feeling like rejection. Had someone unfriend me, presumably from boredom; no harsh words, no disagreement of principles or stuff like that, and I, at least, thought we had enough in common, but.... 'S okay, I guess, even if it does feel like a rejection---speaking strictly for myself, here.

[lenine2.livejournal.com]

I'm curious about the adventure Biggie had.

Some years ago I was part of a LJ-er's friendzy. I'm pretty sure that's how I found you. Within the past few months she unfriended me, and then had another friendzy. I couldn't help but feel rejected. I don't think I'm that boring, and I don't post about controversial subjects very often, but my LJ was so offensive she cut me off and then opened her LJ up to anyone who requested access. Oh well, I like my group of friends here.

[susandennis]

I am going to write about what I want to write about controversially or boringly or however the mood strikes me. So friend/unfriend. I get it.

I left the door open to the washer dryer closet and he got wedged back in there but he got out. I only know because the door was a little stuck when I went to close it and the crap on his back looked exactly like what he'd get back there.

[bill-schubert.livejournal.com]

Knowing what I know about the stand, if I were in charge of the stained material and had to do something about it I'd get some stain or fabric paint and a sponge and just pattern the material enough that stains would not show. A color complimentary with your walls.

Pro - way easier than essentially doing the same thing to that lovely wood
- if you don't like it, you can always cut off the material then
Con - have to buy fabric paint although I actually see an Amazon buy for 11.90 that has five tubes so would not be a huge inventory

Totally get the unfriend issue.

[susandennis]

That is a GENIUS idea! Exactly 1 hour too late. Fuck. And of course I have fabric paint right here. Damn. Oh well. Next time I'll ask you first!

[celluloid-jam.livejournal.com]

I love your journal and I think you are interesting, witty and good. :)

[susandennis]

awwww thank you

[maju01.livejournal.com]

Someone did that unfriend thing to me last year. I was very disappointed because I had thoroughly enjoyed reading their journal, and we had never had any disagreements (that I knew of, of course). I definitely felt rejected.

[egg-shell.livejournal.com]

At this point I am very leery about friending someone with a Friends Locked journal cause that has happened to me before too. It hurts in more than one way. There is the feeling of rejection, and then there is the missing of getting to read their journal anymore after I've gotten attached to it.

I for one love your journal. You're almost like a family member around here. We talk about what Susan Dennis is up to now.

[susandennis]

You're almost like a family member around here.

This makes my day! Week. Year. How very wonderful.

[carriea31.livejournal.com]

I have no idea when someone unfriends me unless I go to my settings specifically to look. Do you get a notification of some sort?

[susandennis]

https://www.livejournal.com/manage/settings/?cat=notifications

[carriea31.livejournal.com]

Ah, excellent! thanks.

[letmesaythis.livejournal.com]

I just learned about that feature and also just learned access to the feature requires an upgrade. It's just as well. I am a touch too sensitive to be getting notifications that I've been unfriended. I would take it way more personally than is warranted. Someone I was friends with on livejournal blocked me on twitter. I know I did nothing to offend her; I think she may be wary of someone saying the wrong thing about her past life because she has gained a teeny tiny bit of celebrity.

[curiouswombat.livejournal.com]

I feel like that if people unfriend me too :(

[chocolate-frapp.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't unfriend you, I like reading about you and Biggie

[sherlock999.livejournal.com]

Your journal is one of my favorites. Your writing is funny and right on the spot about life's oddities. And I love, love, love the way you write about Biggie. I have a black cat named Dobby, and I'm pretty darn sure that black cats rule the world.

[susandennis]

awww thank you.

[seattlejo.livejournal.com]

I think we go back to far for me to unfriend you. the connection is permanent.

[susandennis]

besides... i know where you live!

[rromantic.livejournal.com]

Yup, weirdest thing, how rejected one feels when someone you've never met unfriends you. Someone I've been following for a while had a post the other day about cleaning up their flist and that you shouldn't feel bad if you were removed because of 'long list of reasons'. Strangest thing, the momentary anxiety that I felt at the thought of being kicked to the curb just because I don't comment often and tend to rather just hit the little heart button at an entry.

[bangdrum.livejournal.com]

I have serious rejection issues. I check my profile regularly to make sure I still have the same number of friends. If someone unfriends me, I immediately unfriend them back while trying not to cry. I don't understand people who say they're doing "friends cuts" or just have "too much to read." I would never unfriend anyone unless they actively attacked me.

[tanya macdonald (from livejournal.com)]

Perhaps they were like me and got a random "change your password now because you're locked out" notice and, apparently, used some random email address that they can't remember for their account so they had to create a brand new one, just to keep up with your happenings? So less of a rejection and more of a forced reset?