I hope there is a special place in heaven

[susandennis]

I noticed in my 50's that un-hot older women are invisible. The older I get, the more invisibler. So, imagine my surprise and delight when last night, I found myself seated between two really attractive me in their early 30s, BOTH of whom treated me like I was a legit person! They were fun and interesting and interested and just the best baseball neighbors ever. And seriously cute.

I hope there is a special place in heaven for everyone who notices old women but particularly for young hot guys who do.

And, I was doubly grateful because we lost both games yesterday to a team only marginally better than we are. It was depressing. My next ticket is for a week from Tuesday.

I keep seeing tweets today about father's day - they all go something like 'happy father's day and love to all who have lost their dad'... and my mind goes to... shudda put a tracker on that dude, have you looked everywhere? doncha hate when you lose shit like that?

Plans for today are the usual. Baseball, but on TV this time, and crochet. I am out of breakfast burritos again. The last batch I made were just perfect so I'm hoping to replicate that today.

This is the last day of cool weather until September. Starting tomorrow the temperature starts getting into the a/c range and the clouds drift on to wherever they go for the summer. I'm so grateful to have had these last few weeks of comfort. The game time temperature last night was just perfection. Biggie has, at best, only a couple more days of hearing the birds taunt him. And then it's shut the door, turn on the a/c and wait for Labor Day. Remind me in six weeks how right now I'm thinking this is minimal pain.

This is Biggie's latest treat puzzle. He is telling me that it is empty.

Comments

[halfmoon_mollie1]

I keep seeing tweets today about father's day - they all go something like 'happy father's day and love to all who have lost their dad'... and my mind goes to... shudda put a tracker on that dude, have you looked everywhere? doncha hate when you lose shit like that?

One of my Mom's pet peeves, and in turn, mine.

I hope you got on the stick and filled Biggie's puzzle!

[rsc]

This usage really should have been put to bed after Oscar Wilde shot it down, well over a century ago, in The Importance of Being Earnest:

Jack: I have lost both parents, Lady Bracknell.

Lady B.: To lose one parent is a misfortune; to lose both looks rather like carelessness.

[desdemonaspace]

I totally get being older and having become invisible to attractive men. Now, I find that young men hold doors open for me, and at Petsmart, one offered to put my case of cat food into his cart, because he could see I was uncomfortable carrying it. (Rotator cuff, ya know.) Nice young man!

[maisydaisy]

Oh Biggie, you are so beautiful. I lost my beautiful Meg last year so i take great pleasure seeing your gorgeous photos and hearing how you are doing.

[sherlockishere]

Yeah, I've noticed the invisibility phenomenon, too. At just 65, I am looked through (but not AT) by people who are younger than me. This happens in doctors' offices (and can effect my medical care) and at work (despite my accomplishments). It's sort of like I don't exist anymore, or maybe I became invisible without realizing it.

I hope you sit by the hotties again next week. Sweet young men can certainly liven up the day!

While I'm griping, I should add that the whole thing about death makes me nuts. They never say a person DIED anymore. People don't even pass away anymore-- They "pass." What the hell is that? I've told my kids firmly that they need to put in my obit that I DIED and of what, just for the people who are curious about such things. The obits don't even mention cause of death anymore, as though it's a forbidden topic.

Where's you get the treat puzzle? I need to get Dobby a new one. His favorite puzzle is the new bag of Hill's KD formula we get occasionally. He chews on the bag until he gets it open, and then he only wants to eat out of the bag. Like he's killed the food and is enjoying his prey. Cats.

[bill_schubert]

I am very fond of Caitlin Doughty (https://www.orderofthegooddeath.com/our-story/)and 'The Order of the Good Death' where no one passes but everyone dies.

Treat yourself if you don't know about it. She is a national treasure.

[sherlockishere]

OMG, that's a FABULOUS page! I'm so excited to have found it--- Thank you, thank you, thank you. I told my kids a while back that they can NOT have me embalmed. I just want to be buried in a pine box, in which I can decompose in the natural way and help feed the little worms, bugs, and birds. What's so wrong about that? For the life of me, I've never understood the practice of putting embalming fluid in the dead and sealing them in some massive casket! It doesn't make sense environmentally, and I hate the idea of it being done to me! OK, I'm off now to read her site further......

[bill_schubert]

Her book, 'Smoke Gets in Your Eyes: And other lessons from the Crematory" is wonderful. She wrote it before she was at all known and had a ton of self image issues so it is her personal story as well as the foundation piece for the "Order of the Good Death". She narrates the audio book herself which is usually the kiss of death but not in this case. Highly recommended.

[susandennis]

https://catamazing.com/pages/mega

[ng_moonmoth]

>> They never say a person DIED anymore. People don't even pass away anymore-- They "pass." What the hell is that? <<

I recall that it comes from the superstition that mentioning death runs the danger of being misinterpreted by personified!Death as a summoning ritual, and is therefore best avoided. Sort of a True Names thing.

As far as cause of death not being mentioned, I'm not sure whether that's more "we don't want to talk about nasty things" or "by us, that's not really anyone else's business". In some cases, even if they don't mention it, one can often make inferences by considering the charities mentioned as preferred "in memory of" support targets. Which means for me that if you want to put that information in your obit, please go right ahead, and I will cheer your having done so. But not for a while would be nice.

[loganberrybunny]

People don't even pass away anymore-- They "pass."

We're starting to see that here in the UK too. I suppose it may be relevant that, unlike in former generations, we barely ever come face to face with death now. I'm in my forties and I've seen two dead people in my entire life. (Open-casket funerals are very rare in Great Britain, though Ireland is different. It's always a culture shock when I read about an open-casket funeral in an American novel and it's described as a totally normal thing.) But yeah, when I die, folks, say I've died. Everyone knows what it means. It's not as if my feelings could be hurt. I'll be dead!

[bill_schubert]

John Prine wrote Hello In There (https://youtu.be/OVhA01J0Zsg) at 25 or so, absolutely amazing. I heard it out of Bette Midler's mouth (Devine Miss M) when I was 22 and she was not too much older.

The ripples still resound for me. But I think of them being old. Never me.

I just answered a Profific survey about micro aggressions against old people and I had to apologize to them for having so little grist for their mill. Of course, as I told them, the first person who pats me on the head and says 'aren't you cute' might discover micro vs macro aggressions.

[susandennis]

holy crap! at least i'm now very grateful i'm not john prine's old person. that's depressing.

i didn't get that survey - more's the pity.

[bill_schubert]

Yeah, he wrote some tough lyrics.

[maisydaisy]

Bill, John Prine and this song was news to me. Just absolutely amazing. I have been sitting here watching it over and over. I then discovered this by Joan Baez who said his song was one of her most requested.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CJPvc5vvKY4.

[bill_schubert]

Two recommendations.

1 - Listen to his first eponymous titled album.
2 - Listen to John Prine Live.

The has an enormous trove of songs he did in his 20's. They crop up all over the place with other people covering them.
The live one gives an idea of his ability to just tell stories on stage. The songs are wonderful but listening to him tell those stories is like Mark Twain with music.
His was such a tragic Covid loss.
But his one late in life goal was to play in Paris and he got to do that before he died. He contracted Covid in France.

[maisydaisy]

Thank you Bill. What a treasure trove you have passed to me.
The reason i put the Joan Baez link was because she sings his song as a tribute and prayer for him towards the end.

[wpadmirer]

That's really nice when young guys are pleasant to you.

I get that a lot because I climb in the rock gym and take boxing lessons. So I end up being around younger men, and they have gotten to know me and they're really nice to me. I admit that I like that.

I think you'd better put some treats in that puzzle. That face looks like it's just questioning now, but it could go south real quick. (grin)

[susandennis]

You read him perfectly. He got treats.

[greghousesgf]

I wasn't very good looking when I was younger either so I usually got ignored when I wasn't being verbally abused for it.

[mrdreamjeans]

I feel the same way ... You hit a certain age and suddenly you're invisible. I hope these two younger men show up as seat mates at more Mariner's games.

[msconduct]

Those young hot men no doubt think we're thinking grandmotherly thoughts about them like how much we'd like to knit them a cardigan. If only they knew

[zoefruitcake]

My friend's 24 year old son opened the car door for me the other day and I was so surprised! Usually I am invisible

[fbhjr]

Sorry they lost, but glad it wasn’t all bad.